I’m going to make a recording of Tank screeching. It’s his vocalization of choice lately, and he’s talented at it. His screeches reach ear-drum-vibrating caliber. It’s special.
I’m going to save said recording, and play it for him when he’s a teenager and doesn’t want to get out of bed in the morning.
While I wait for that blessed day, I’m going to buy earplugs. No joke, I’m almost at that point.
I made a post in a mom Facebook group, asking if anyone else had similar experiences and advice. Several moms lamented with me. Some of them offered suggestions (gently saying “We don’t yell,” etc.).
Then one or two moms started a conversation that, while I get where they’re coming from, just didn’t jive with me. “He’s expressing himself and finding his voice. I would never stifle my child’s voice…” was the line of thought.
I get it. I really do.
I want my kids – both of them – the one that screeches and the one that won’t stop babbling at a mile a minute at 6:30 a.m. while I’m struggling to be a functioning human being – to feel free to express themselves.
I also want them to understand that sometimes, we need to be considerate of others. And that means that I may occasionally need to tell my 6 month old “That hurts Mommy’s ears,” even though he doesn’t 100% understand me yet, or tell my 2 year old “Can you sit and eat quietly right now?”
Because in my mind, there’s a difference between letting my kid spend all day painting, or buying him a drumset if that’s his jam, and teaching a little respect and decency along the way as well.
I admit, there is a fine line between the two, but there is a line. Anyone have any thoughts on what that means for your family?